HERE - Paul Monette
I’m still
here I have your watch in the top drawer
which I don’t dare wear yet help me please
the boxes grocery home day after day
the junk that keeps men spotless but it doesn’t
matter now how long they last or I
the day has taken you with it and all
there is now is burning dark that only green
is up by the grave and this little thing
of telling the hill I’m here oh I’m here
Paul Monette, excerpt from “HERE“
“Everything that they have seen and been told about love so far has been an inside perspective, and they are not prepared for the crashing weight of this exclusion. It dawns on them now how much they never saw and how little they were wanted, and with this dawning comes a painful reimagining of the self as peripheral, uninvited, and utterly minor.”
Eleanor Catton; The Rehearsal
“For the first time in his life Stanley saw that a woman was not simply a failed and hopelessly outmoded girl. She was a different creature entirely from the glossed and honeyed girls in the audition room: those girls, Stanley thought, could never play this woman until the day they become her, and from that day onward they could never play a girl.”
Eleanor Catton; The Rehearsal
“This is the Faustian bargain for many women who make their bodies their livelihood. Your body will be worshipped by others but hated by you. It will give others pleasure but it will give you only pain.”
Jillian Lauren; Some Girls: My Life In A Harem
“In pop culture, girls who crush hopelessly on guys they can’t have are painted as just that – hopeless. Over and over again, we’re taught that girls who openly express sexual or romantic interest in guys who don’t want them are pitiable, stalkerish, desperate, crazy bitches. More often than not, they’re also portrayed as ugly – whether physically, emotionally or both – in order to further establish their undesirability as an objective fact. Both narratively and, as a consequence, in real life, men are given free reign to snub, abuse, mislead and talk down to such women: we’re raised to believe that female desire is unseemly, so that any consequent shaming is therefore deserved. There is no female-equivalent Friend Zone terminology because, in the language of our culture, a man’s romantic choices are considered sacrosanct and inviolable. If a girl has been told no, then she has only herself to blame for anything that happens next – but if a woman says no, then she must not really mean it. Or, if she does, she shouldn’t: the rejected man is a universally sympathetic figure, and everyone from moviegoers to platonic onlookers will scream at her to just give him a chance, as though her rejection must always be unfounded rather than based on the fact that he had a chance, and blew it. And even then, give him another one! The pathos of Single Nice Guys can only be eased by pity-sex with unwilling women that blossoms into romance!
—Lamenting The Friend Zone, Or: The “Nice Guy” Approach To Perpetrating Sexist Bullshit” what smells like barn: (via iridescentglow)
—Lamenting The Friend Zone, Or: The “Nice Guy” Approach To Perpetrating Sexist Bullshit” what smells like barn: (via iridescentglow)
(Source: fozmeadows)
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Government assistance is a pittance; poverty drives women and girls into situations where they are forced to rely on people who abuse them to survive
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“Pro-life” is simply a philosophy in which the only life worth saving is the one that can be saved by punishing a woman.
” desliz on what pro-life actually means, and how to help abolish the need for abortions.
“It’s saddening to see how flippantly and trivially women and violence against women are treated in film especially when violence against women in the real world is at epidemic levels and parity with men has not yet been reached. Talking about these issues isn’t an attack on the male gender, it’s just a way for us as a society to identify, understand and resist the variety of ways that women and our fictional representations are disempowered and victimized.”
Kristal Cooper; comment on “Thoughts from a radical feminist: Oliver Stone and the He-Man Woman-Haters Club”
“The world is full of terrible things, including rape, and it is okay to joke about them. But the best comics use their art to call bullshit on those terrible parts of life and make them better, not worse. The key—unless you want to be called a garbage-flavored dick on the internet by me and other humans with souls and brains—is to be a responsible person when you construct your jokes.”
Lindy West; How to Make a Rape Joke
“We didn’t call it rape back then. To us, rape was what happened to hitchhikers and to single women living in ground-floor apartments by men in ski masks. Rapists were not guys we knew who dated the popular girls at our school. We thought what happened was passion, romance, ravishment. It felt wrong to me, but I still defined it in those terms because those were all we had.”
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(I can’t figure out who said this or where I found it. If someone knows hit me up and I’ll add it in.)
“Whoever loved you, loved you. Loved your scars and their legends, loved each vagabond hair. The first time he caught you—lit up by the bright light of a midnight refrigerator, sneaking cookie dough into your mouth—he knew he would marry you. While you slept he called his mother to tell her, skated his finger down the bend in your nose and imagined it on a future daughter’s face. If he were a surgeon, he would chisel away at his patients until the whole world looked just like you. If he were a painter, there would be one million of your eyes opening all over this gritty metropolis. To him, you are perfect. But he is a simple man and the only way he knows how to tell you this is by turning on the lights when you make love—and you turn them right off.”
MEGAN FALLEY; TO THE WOMEN COMPETING ON E! ENTERTAINMENT’S HIT REALITY TELEVISION SHOW, “BRIDALPLASTY”
“Rape isn’t a ‘natural hazard’ like a cliff edge that women must be careful to avoid when drunk - it is a wilful act of violence perpetrated by another human being and the responsibility lies with the perpetrator not the victim. Drinking alcohol is not illegal or wrong. Perpetrators are in control of their actions. A woman is never responsible for a man raping her.”
The Equality Illusion, Kat Banyard. (via futureabortiondoctor)
“Children’s lives are always beginning and adults’ lives are always ending. Or is it the opposite? Your childhood is always ending and your adult self is always beginning. You are always learning how to say good-bye to whoever you were at the dinner table the night before.”
Alison Espach; The Adults
“Sometimes some of us cannot afford to be ourselves all of the time, even those of us who have more-or-less committed to our own fabulous uniqueness. Sometimes, we put on a uniform. We sell a product. Sometimes, people do what they need to do to survive.”
Melissa Petro; I Don’t Have the Privilege of Being Fabulously Unique | xoJane
“Women’s boundaries are constantly being broken by men and we are told all the time, that if we make a fuss about it, we are unreasonable, unfriendly, rude, hysterical, difficult, confrontational - all negatives, all things we should strive not to be. So if you are young and have never been raped and don’t know how common it is and you know that your boundaries are supposed to be broken because that’s what society has told you, you don’t feel alarm when a man breaks them yet again.”
HerbsandHags: How I became a rape victim
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